{"id":3343,"date":"2025-02-24T11:31:36","date_gmt":"2025-02-24T11:31:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/extremehoardingcleanup.com\/?page_id=3343"},"modified":"2025-04-05T05:03:34","modified_gmt":"2025-04-05T05:03:34","slug":"when-a-loved-one-hoards","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/extremehoardingcleanup.com\/?page_id=3343","title":{"rendered":"WHEN A LOVED ONE HOARDS"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-page\" data-elementor-id=\"3343\" class=\"elementor elementor-3343\" data-elementor-post-type=\"page\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8ceea57 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"8ceea57\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6e3e7c6 elementor-widget__width-inherit elementor-absolute position-100 elementor-widget elementor-widget-react-shine\" data-id=\"6e3e7c6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_position&quot;:&quot;absolute&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"react-shine.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t          <div id=\"shine-wrapper\" data-stars=\"50\" data-sparkle=\"20\" data-icon=\"https:\/\/reactheme.com\/products\/wordpress\/uclean\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/download.png\">\r\n          <\/div>\r\n          <script>\r\n               jQuery(function($) {\r\n                    var body = $('#shine-wrapper');\r\n                    var template = $('<div class=\"template shine\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"' + body.data('icon') + '\" class=\"star-icon\"><\/div>');\r\n                    var stars = parseInt(body.data('stars'));\r\n                    var sparkle = parseInt(body.data('sparkle'));\r\n                    var createStar = function(size) {\r\n                         template.clone().removeAttr('id').css({\r\n                              top: (Math.random() * 100) + '%',\r\n                              left: (Math.random() * 100) + '%',\r\n                              animationDelay: (Math.random() * sparkle) + 's'\r\n                         }).addClass(size).appendTo(body);\r\n                    };\r\n                    for (var i = 0; i < stars; i++) {\r\n                         var size = (i % 2 === 0) ? 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But he\/she doesn\u2019t seem to recognize that it\u2019s a problem and isn\u2019t interested in doing anything about it. How can I make him\/her see that this is a problem and get the help he\/she so badly needs?\u201d<\/em><strong>The short answer:<\/strong>\u00a0In most cases, you can\u2019t. That is, assuming that your loved one is an adult who is legally competent to manage his\/her own affairs (meaning he\/she has not been declared incompetent by a judge and appointed a legal guardian), and the clutter is not immediately life-threatening, he\/she has the right to hoard, even though the hoarding might have terrible consequences for his\/her quality of life.<strong>The long answer:<\/strong>\u00a0Even though in most cases you can\u2019t make the person do anything, you can alter your approach to minimize the likelihood of getting a defensive or \u201cstubborn\u201d reaction. Often, it\u2019s tempting to start arguing with the person, trying to persuade them to see things the way you do. This kind of direct confrontation rarely works.We find that the best way to help people increase their motivation to work on the problem is to start with three key assumptions:<\/p><ul><li>Ambivalence is normal.<\/li><li>People have a right to make their own choices.<\/li><li>Nothing will happen until the person is ready to change.<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ee2b95a e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"ee2b95a\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1706192 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"1706192\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">WHEN A LOVED ONE HOARDS\n<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-15a1845 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"15a1845\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"480\" src=\"https:\/\/extremehoardingcleanup.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/PIC_0123.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-3346\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/extremehoardingcleanup.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/PIC_0123.jpg 832w, https:\/\/extremehoardingcleanup.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/PIC_0123-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/extremehoardingcleanup.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/PIC_0123-768x576.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>WHEN A LOVED ONE HOARDS In our hoarding research, one of the most common inquiries we get is:\u00a0\u201cMy [mother, father, sibling, friend, spouse, etc.] has a terrible hoarding problem. 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